LoveMom is my meager attempt to journal the joys & challenges of my mothering journey & the daily life in the Myers home. This blog is an attempt to be vulnerable, to be genuine and real in order to remember what God has done & is doing. I am so utterly blessed & thankful to be living for Jesus. He is my rock and my fortress. Of whom shall I be afraid? He is love. We love because He first loved us. That's why I sign all my journals, LoveMom.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Walk by faith, not by sight!
In his booklet, The Overcoming Life, D.L. Moody presents three points on how we can live to be overcomers and see victory in our lives:
1. "Live by faith"
Think of Galatians 2:20. "I am crucified with Christ; nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ who lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh, I live by faith of the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me."
If God is for me, if He is Immanuel or "God with us," then I am going to overcome. Moody asks, "How do we get this power?" The answer: By faith.
How do you live? Are you deceiving yourself? Is there a lifestyle of true repentance and change, or is there an ongoing habitual lifestyle of not trusting Your Savior? Is He really first or are you first? What needs to be done to change this? Do you really want to change? Do you really care how you live?
2. "Stand by faith"
Romans 11:20 "Because of unbelief they were broken off; and you stand by faith." What an incredible gift we are given! So many Jews, the very chosen people of God, were broken off because of unbelief. BUT God had a plan all along to make a way for the rest of us to be "grafted" into the vine! Into Him! Into His promises! We STAND by faith, "on account of our belief," as Moody puts it! Beautiful!
3. "Walk by faith"
2 Corinthians 5:7 says, "We walk by faith, not by sight."
It is the simple fact that I am called to walk and to keep walking. To live, and to keep living. Not for myself, or even by myself, but WITH Him and FOR Him! But if I am so busy looking about me, checking out others, comparing, obsessing about how I might be the best, be approved, be successful, EVEN in ministry, then I do not know Calvary love and have so much to learn about faith in Christ! Moody compares the lives of some men, living by faith and living by sight. If you have spent any time in the Word, you would understand why: Joseph and Jacob. Lot and Abraham.
Our flesh wants to see in order to believe. But "Jesus makes no mistake...when He enlists a man for His service, He shows him the dark side; He lets him know that he must live a life of self-denial...Many men want a religion in which there is no cross, but we cannot enter that way. If we are to be disciples of Christ, we must deny ourselves and take up the cross and follow Him. So let us sit down and count the cost." D.L. Moody
Dear sons, may you count the cost, as much as see the victory ahead! Remember who you fight for!
Lovemom
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Overcoming part 2 - Linked with Christ for victory!
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Overcoming part 1 ~ recognizing the battle
Monday, May 2, 2011
His Goodness... the Outward, Ongoing Journey...
His Goodness III - The Outward, Ongoing Journey
by Michelle Myers on Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 3:04pmBased on the BSF study on Romans
"Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Rom 15:13
Abound. Hope. Joy. Peace.
Paul was filled with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. He believed Christ was the Son of God and believed His saving power was a gift to both Jews and Gentiles. This was the mystery he revealed throughout Romans and many of his other books.
It is amazing to see Paul's life start as Saul the persecutor and finish as Paul the nurturer. I gleen from his life many things. But today I focus on the ongoing task of living life, in pressing onward; to abound in hope and to be filled with all joy and peace by the power of the Holy Spirit.
My ongoing journey as a Christ-follower started many years ago.
I did not have a dramatic roadside encounter with Christ like Paul did. What I did have was an opportunity, a choice, a descision to make to believe in Christ. I took it at the young and tender age of 6. I remember my parents and sibiliings and I were at a Christian Summer Family Camp where we did many fun activities. But the only event I can truly say I remember was the presentation of the gospel and what I chose to do with it.
I remember vividly. There was a short skit about little David defeating the enormous giant, Goliath. For some reason, it was then that I realized I needed God. I looked at Goliath who was dressed up in this huge costume which seemed to reach the tops of trees. He seemed so real. I looked at David too. He reminded me of me. Young. Short. Defensless. David seemed defensless but his courage and boldness next to such a giant impressed me. If I were David I would certainly call upon my Daddy to save me, and even fight for me, I thought. There is no way I could do it. But then again, even my own Daddy would never be a match for this giant. How then could David be so bold and courageous? David's words amazed me,
"You come to me with a sword, a spear and a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts; the God of the armies of Israel whom you have taunted. This day the Lord will deliver you up into my hands and I will strike you down and and remove your head from you...that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel and that all this assembly may know that the Lord does not deliver by sword or by spear; for the battle is the Lord's and He will give you into our hands." 1 Samuel 17:45-47
As a 6yr old I knew I needed a Big God to fight for me. I knew I could not do it on my own. Someday I might have to face a giant and I would want God on my side! A revelation came to me: God must be even bigger than my daddy!
As young as I was then, the whole picture of the gospel was yet to be internalized and understood. "Truly I say to you, unless you are converted and become like children, you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven." Matthew 18:3 But I knew the important thing. God is real and I need Him. He will always be the biggest and will always win the battle.
In my young adult life I had a few giants to fight. Some battles were won because God was there to do the work. He recieves all the glory for it! He gets all the glory for winning over the hearts of the few young girls I shared the gospel with; for winning the hearts and minds of young men and women who chose to be faithful to their future spouses when I spoke on sex before marraige in schools and youth groups(a long time ago); for healing the hearts of broken people and in need of tangible help and assistance. He recieves all the glory, for He does the work in the hearts and lives of real people. Something I could never do. It is my aim, like Paul, to glory(or boast) in Jesus Christ alone. (Rom 15:17)
But to be genuine, I did not and still do not always trust God in the battles. Rather, many times I think I have to do it on my own or call on others to do the fighting for me. I have to admit, its a good way to get out of a situation, a commitment, a challenge, but its just an easy way out. When the going gets tough and the stress of my Christian walk is tested, I can so easily feel like giving up, like throwing in the towel or like ignoring it until it goes away. This is just not right. Quit? Its just not what believers do, right? Imagine what lessons and truths I would have missed if David had given up as he observed the power of the giant. His example of hope in an even powerful God would never be there in the Bible!
Yet this is exactly the choice I face on a daily basis. To give up or press on. To let myself wither away into an ineffective, apathetic, fearful Christian, or be on the alert and ready to fight as David was. Knowing that God is doing the fighting must pull some weight on the decision, but still for many of us we have a hard time giving up complete control or final outcome. Having started out as a youthful, vibrant and ambitious believer in Christ, I still wish to be one. But I recently told my mentor I felt like a perrenial daisy just pushing through the surface on a warm spring day after a long cold winter. Knowing I had once bloomed in the past, I am now preparing for the days ahead to be ready to bloom again for the glory of God. I will never quit!
One of my pastors said some profound things last Sunday. He said we spend only a little of our life under the highlight of great achievment - even if it is for the Lord. David fought Goliath and won the battle in just one day. Most of his life was spent in the fields tending sheep. A professional violinist will spend an enitire life practicing and training with rare occasions of performance. We must focus on being the person God wants us to be wherever we are at. Its a lesson of being faithful in the little, where most of our lives are spent anyway.
This brings me back to the life of Paul. At the end of Romans he lists many names of which he wishes to greet in Christ. But they are not just names. Paul spent quality time, knew them intimately, their struggles and hardships. He really knew these people and loved them deeply. Each of these are real people who loved God and served other beilevers in the church. Many are mentioned in other books of the Bible. The point is, our lives are ment to be lived to impact others for Christ on a normal, everyday basis. Just as Paul's life and the others listed made an impact on others for Christ in the midst of daily struggles, so I should do the same. Its an ongoing, outward journey. God does the work and recieves the glory for it all.
We grow in grace. Grace upon grace, He pours out His lovingkindness. The fight, the race, the struggles will be won because of who God is, not who David is or I am or because of the ablilities we have as individuals.
All the work is to be done by God. All the glory is His. He is Goodness.
His Goodness III - The Outward, Ongoing Journey
"Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Rom 15:13
Abound. Hope. Joy. Peace.
Paul was filled with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. He believed Christ was the Son of God and believed His saving power was a gift to both Jews and Gentiles. This was the mystery he revealed throughout Romans and many of his other books.
It is amazing to see Paul's life start as Saul the persecutor and finish as Paul the nurturer. I gleen from his life many things. But today I focus on the ongoing task of living life, in pressing onward; to abound in hope and to be filled with all joy and peace by the power of the Holy Spirit.
My ongoing journey as a Christ-follower started many years ago.
I did not have a dramatic roadside encounter with Christ like Paul did. What I did have was an opportunity, a choice, a descision to make to believe in Christ. I took it at the young and tender age of 6. I remember my parents and sibiliings and I were at a Christian Summer Family Camp where we did many fun activities. But the only event I can truly say I remember was the presentation of the gospel and what I chose to do with it.
I remember vividly. There was a short skit about little David defeating the enormous giant, Goliath. For some reason, it was then that I realized I needed God. I looked at Goliath who was dressed up in this huge costume which seemed to reach the tops of trees. He seemed so real. I looked at David too. He reminded me of me. Young. Short. Defensless. David seemed defensless but his courage and boldness next to such a giant impressed me. If I were David I would certainly call upon my Daddy to save me, and even fight for me, I thought. There is no way I could do it. But then again, even my own Daddy would never be a match for this giant. How then could David be so bold and courageous? David's words amazed me,
"You come to me with a sword, a spear and a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts; the God of the armies of Israel whom you have taunted. This day the Lord will deliver you up into my hands and I will strike you down and and remove your head from you...that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel and that all this assembly may know that the Lord does not deliver by sword or by spear; for the battle is the Lord's and He will give you into our hands." 1 Samuel 17:45-47
As a 6yr old I knew I needed a Big God to fight for me. I knew I could not do it on my own. Someday I might have to face a giant and I would want God on my side! A revelation came to me: God must be even bigger than my daddy!
As young as I was then, the whole picture of the gospel was yet to be internalized and understood. "Truly I say to you, unless you are converted and become like children, you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven." Matthew 18:3 But I knew the important thing. God is real and I need Him. He will always be the biggest and will always win the battle.
In my young adult life I had a few giants to fight. Some battles were won because God was there to do the work. He recieves all the glory for it! He gets all the glory for winning over the hearts of the few young girls I shared the gospel with; for winning the hearts and minds of young men and women who chose to be faithful to their future spouses when I spoke on sex before marraige in schools and youth groups(a long time ago); for healing the hearts of broken people and in need of tangible help and assistance. He recieves all the glory, for He does the work in the hearts and lives of real people. Something I could never do. It is my aim, like Paul, to glory(or boast) in Jesus Christ alone. (Rom 15:17)
But to be genuine, I did not and still do not always trust God in the battles. Rather, many times I think I have to do it on my own or call on others to do the fighting for me. I have to admit, its a good way to get out of a situation, a commitment, a challenge, but its just an easy way out. When the going gets tough and the stress of my Christian walk is tested, I can so easily feel like giving up, like throwing in the towel or like ignoring it until it goes away. This is just not right. Quit? Its just not what believers do, right? Imagine what lessons and truths I would have missed if David had given up as he observed the power of the giant. His example of hope in an even powerful God would never be there in the Bible!
Yet this is exactly the choice I face on a daily basis. To give up or press on. To let myself wither away into an ineffective, apathetic, fearful Christian, or be on the alert and ready to fight as David was. Knowing that God is doing the fighting must pull some weight on the decision, but still for many of us we have a hard time giving up complete control or final outcome. Having started out as a youthful, vibrant and ambitious believer in Christ, I still wish to be one. But I recently told my mentor I felt like a perrenial daisy just pushing through the surface on a warm spring day after a long cold winter. Knowing I had once bloomed in the past, I am now preparing for the days ahead to be ready to bloom again for the glory of God. I will never quit!
One of my pastors said some profound things last Sunday. He said we spend only a little of our life under the highlight of great achievment - even if it is for the Lord. David fought Goliath and won the battle in just one day. Most of his life was spent in the fields tending sheep. A professional violinist will spend an enitire life practicing and training with rare occasions of performance. We must focus on being the person God wants us to be wherever we are at. Its a lesson of being faithful in the little, where most of our lives are spent anyway.
This brings me back to the life of Paul. At the end of Romans he lists many names of which he wishes to greet in Christ. But they are not just names. Paul spent quality time, knew them intimately, their struggles and hardships. He really knew these people and loved them deeply. Each of these are real people who loved God and served other beilevers in the church. Many are mentioned in other books of the Bible. The point is, our lives are ment to be lived to impact others for Christ on a normal, everyday basis. Just as Paul's life and the others listed made an impact on others for Christ in the midst of daily struggles, so I should do the same. Its an ongoing, outward journey. God does the work and recieves the glory for it all.
We grow in grace. Grace upon grace, He pours out His lovingkindness. The fight, the race, the struggles will be won because of who God is, not who David is or I am or because of the ablilities we have as individuals.
All the work is to be done by God. All the glory is His. He is Goodness.
Water Study
Water Study
JULY 2006
“Whether then you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1Corinthians 10:31
There is an opposite relationship between “hunger pains:”
Physical hunger – the longer you go without eating, the hungrier you get.
Spiritual hunger – the longer you go without feeding, the less hungry you get.
The sign of physical hunger is stomach hunger. The sign of spiritual hunger is the feeling that you don’t need to be fed – there is danger in feeling independent of God.
WATER
Psalm 1:3 “And he will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither; and in whatever he does, he prospers.”
Proverbs 9:17 “Stolen water is sweet; and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.”
John 4:10 “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is who says to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked Him and He would have given you living water.”
John 4:13,14 “Everyone who drinks of this water shall thirst again; but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall become in him a well of water springing up to eternal life.”
Revelation 22:17 “And the Spirit and the Bride say “Come” And let the one who hears say “Come” And let the one who is thirsty come; let the one who wishes, take the water of life without cost.”
THIRST
Psalm 42:2 “My soul thirsts for God, for the living God…”
Matthew 5:6 “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.”
John 4:13 (See listing under WATER)
John 6:35 “Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; he who comes to Me shall not hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.”
HUNGER
Psalm 146:7 “Who executes justice for the oppressed? Who gives food to the hungry? The Lord sets the prisoners free.”
Matthew 15:32 “Jesus called his disciples and said, ‘I feel compassion on the multitude because they have remained with me now three days and have nothing to eat; and I do not wish to send them away hungry, lest they faint on the way.”
Proverbs 10:3 “The Lord will not allow the righteous to hunger. But He will thrust aside the cravings of the wicked.”
Proverbs 19:15 “Laziness casts into a deep sleep, and an idle man suffers hunger.”
Luke 6:21;25 “Blessed are you who hunger now, for you shall be satisfied… woe to you who are well-fed now for you shall be hungry…”
John 6:35 (See THIRST)
SATISFY
Psalm 22:26 “The afflicted shall eat and be satisfied; Those who seek Him will praise the Lord. Let your heart live forever!”
Psalm 107:9 “For He has satisfied the thirsty soul, and the hungry soul He has filled with what is good.”
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“I urge you by the mercies of God to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect or mature.” Romans 12:1, 2
Word Study on "Cup"
Word Study on Cup
Word Study on Cup
Inspired by Diane Vaughan
PS 116:13 I shall lift up the cup of salvation –
This whole chapter is pretty amazing to me. Talk about the cords of death and terrors of Sheol coming upon me… finding distress and sorrow! These words encompassed me for a time in my past. The words clearly describe what surrounded me. It was where I was at in mind and emotion. I’m amazed and thankful to read about David and what it was like for him and how he chose to return to the Lord with his mind and his words. He chose to focus on the character of God and remind himself of His promises:
“I love the Lord because He hears my voice and prayers!
I shall call upon Him as long as I live!
He is gracious and righteousness
He is compassionate
He preserves the simple
He saves and rescues from death and tears
He keeps my feet from stumbling”
“What can I give the Lord for all His benefits to me?
I shall lift up the cup of salvation and call upon the name of the Lord.”
Questions to ask:
What am I to lift up? The cup.
What is the cup of salvation? My life saved by grace!
How do I “lift up?” Offer it in worship.
What is the cup filled with? Me stuff or God’s stuff?
Am I the one who chooses what it is filled with?
What does the Word say?
My cup. What is it full of?
• Abundance of blessings and promises from the Lord (Ps116)
• My desires, hopes, dreams, ambitions, aspirations, visions
• Thankfulness, praise, adoration, worship, love for Jesus
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A cup is sometimes used as an illustration of judgment , but sometimes a blessing. It is interesting to note that Christ fulfilled both on the cross when He described His suffering and His life as a cup. Judgment of sin was appeased on the cross and the promise and blessing of a new covenant and future was fulfilled by Christ at the cross. He was the cup of judgment and the cup of promise and blessing.
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Jeremiah 16: 7 Nor give them the cup of consolation –
The Lord is describing a serious result of sin – the sin of Israel’s forefathers and their own sin at the present time. What is it? Following other gods and serving them. Forsaking God and not keeping His law. Each one is walking according to the stubbornness of his won will/evil heart without listening to God.
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Luke 22:20 The cup poured out –
“This cup which is poured out for you is the new covenant in My blood…”
Jesus was talking about His own life when referring to the cup. It was His life, His will, His offering to God to restore the relationship between God and man by creating a new covenant. His life was the salvation and that salvation is in me. I drink of the cup. I believe in this new covenant. I am filled with His life, His salvation.
In this passage there seems to be an example or analogy of how we are to take the cup and lift it up…to drink and take in. Jesus disciples had no clue what meaning this Passover had for them at the time. They took of the cup, put it to their lips and drank it. I may be taking this too far but just as baptizing is a picture of being buried and resurrected into new life, could this picture of taking the cup and drinking mean that we believe (and receive or take in) and take part in the life of Christ? He wants us to taste and see not only that He is good, but that He wants us to taste what it is like to live for Him… to accept His sacrifice and take part in His sufferings? See Romans 8
The cup of salvation – does it mean our lives saved by grace? To “lift up” the cup could mean to give praise and offer up our lives in worship to the Lord.
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Gen 40:11 Dream given to Joseph –
Pharaoh’s cup is filled with squeezed grapes and given to him by the chief cupbearer. The cupbearer was restored to his position in three days.
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Ps 23:5 My cup overflows –
v4“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil for You are with me. Your rod and Your staff they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.”
He gives me abundance of blessing and sustains me with the food I need even in the valley and in the midst of my enemies. He anoints my head with oil and my cup runs over with bountiful blessings. He is with me in my darkest moments and I do not need to fear evil or death. He comforts, disciplines, and guides me with His rod and His staff.
My Garden...
Somedays it looks picture perfect and other days you wish it weren't there.
No, honestly. This little 12' by 12' area can fill me with intense pleasure, reviving my spirits and even help me de-stress. But other times I am ready to bury a bomb in the middle of it and call it a terrorist attack.
Please note some disclaimers first. I love gardening and I chose to start this garden on my own initiative. So, this may sound like complaining, but I am just trying to be sarcastic while laughing at my own frustrations(my life).
Why such extreems you may ask? Good question.
Maybe its the full body poison ivy attack I got while pulling up the brush and weeds before I could start tilling the land.
Maybe its the fact that it took more than enough back-ache to till the area for weeks on end before it was ready to plant in. Not to mention the 100+ grubs my sons helped me pull OUT of the garden while tilling it. Talk about gross!
Maybe its the fact that my first try at a batch of seeds didn't sprout, so the fruits of my labor may be a bit late.
Maybe its the difficult weeding that must be done regularly (which for a 6month pregnant woman can become a pretty funny thing to watch, I'm sure!).
Maybe its the fight with an overwhelming amount of aphids that continue to destroy and eat my plants... despite the sprays I've used!
Maybe its the stupid groundhog that keeps trying to fight its way into my garden to eat what vegetables he hasen't eaten already!
OK. So, these are just a few of my frustrations with this little garden of mine. Not unusual to be sure. Most gardens have the same issues and problems. But my garden speaks volumes to me through an analogy and tells me the story of my life...
Before I knew Christ I was just a big ugly mound of dirt with weeds and poison ivy. Its a simplistic analogy but hang in here with me. I know I infected others with this poison and it wasn't fun or pretty. It was my negativism, my pride, or my ego. This poison hurt and killed friendships that barely took root and should have been given a chance to blossom.
When I met Christ, it was like He said, "This is the land I want to plant a garden in..." So He chose the land and decided to turn it into something beautiful and fruitful. It was my heart, my life.
It took a long time to pull the weeds and till the soill of my heart. It took work. Hard work. There were grubs(bad) and worms(good) mixed together in the soil. But He lovingly and diligently took the time to pick out most of the grubs and destroy them for my betterment.
The soil was ready to plant in... the seeds may have taken a while to sprout, but sprout they did. All in His perfect timing. Just like these seeds, Christ causes the growth in my life. He places seeds of love, forgiveness, hope and joy to sprout and grow in His perfect timing. I cannot rush it or make it happen earlier, but I can let Him do the work of preparing the soil so the seeds will indeed sprout.
The seeds sprouted and the enemy of my soul comes crouching in and around me in different ways. Telling lies that sound so believeable. Licking up hope and causing a drought of dispair. It can be tiresome and even pain-staking to bend over, to work on hands and knees getting dirty. So like a choking weed, or a nasty rodent, the enemy persues in order to destroy the tender and juicy shoots of God's goodness.
It is frustrating at times, thinking the varment/aphids/groundhog/enemy will never leave me alone! This might be true. They may not. But there is a promise; the fruit will come in time. The rewards will come if I remain diligent. The results of hard labor and love will be evident if I do not grow weary. God doesn't leave me to fend for myself as a garden unweeded, unprotected, and unharvested! His plan all along was to choose, change, love, protect, and cause a heap of growth! He produces a full garden of life because He IS life!
I am your exceeding and great reward...Gen.15:1
I am the Life... John 11:25; John 10:11,14
I am the Root...Rev 22:16
I am the vine, you are the branches, he who remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. John 15:1-5
I am He who searches hearts...Revelation 2:23
I am the Lord who heals you...Exodus 15:26
I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, but through me. John 14:6
I am the Bread of Life...John 6:35
"Do not work for food which perishes, but for the food which endures to eternal life which the Son of Man shall give to you, for on Him the Father, even God has set His seal." John 6:27
Our Love Story...
Our Love Story
Rob and Michelle’s Love Story
What is your spiritual background?
Michelle: I’m the oldest of seven kids. I grew up in a strong Christian home, and was saved when I was young. My parents were really involved in my life, and we communicated about a lot of things.
Rob: I came from a very different background. I’m an only child, and my parents didn’t raise me in the Christian faith. I didn’t start to care about or seek out answers about Christianity until I was a junior in high school. I gave my life to Christ as a freshman in college, and began being discipled pretty soon afterward.
Did you two date a lot before you met each other?
Rob: Honestly, almost not at all. I had gone on one or two dates in high school, but it really wasn’t that significant a portion of my life at that point. Many of the friends I was around weren’t all that interested then either, so I didn’t have the external pressure. (Okay, okay, I was a nerd in high school; do you feel better now?) I’m actually very glad I didn’t; some of my friends in college that dated around a lot later told me they had a lot of experiences they regretted.
Michelle: No I didn’t. I kinda set some high standards from the beginning, but that didn’t mean I wasn’t getting to know the guys around me. There were plenty of opportunities to get to know guys and for them to get to know me. I knew I didn’t have to sit at the theatre or fake a face being alone with him at a restaurant to get to know him. I was doing my best to make my singlehood days count for God and not allow dating to distract me. Many guys asked me out, and it gave me a chance to let them know that I was waiting until I was ready and I didn’t want the pressure. Sometimes they would pressure me to just give it a chance, but they would in turn respect me all the more for my consistent stand. The question came up sometimes, “So what are you waiting for?” I would answer, “So far, the right one hasn’t surfaced, so I want to wait till I know I am more ready for marriage.” I just knew I wasn’t ready for a serious commitment, so until then, I would keep working for God and keep my eyes peeled out for a guy who encapsulates the desires of my heart.
How did you meet?
Rob: Michelle doesn’t remember; she’s already admitted that to me! But I remember the first time I saw her. I was discipled by a young man from St. Louis, along with two other very good friends of mine. The four of us went to a youth group at someone’s house one night, and when I went down into the basement, there was this really beautiful young woman standing there talking to someone else. Over the next few years, we got to know each other through group interactions and common friends.
Michelle: It was at a Teens For Christ meeting at some point. He was a freshman in college and I was a Sr. in high school. We had a tight group of friends we both knew pretty well. The whole group hung out very regularly. Whether it was going out to eat, serve in ministry opportunities in the community, at church, sit around to discuss theology, worship and pray together, or just have fun, most of us have remained good/best friends to this day and have been at or in each other’s weddings.
What attracted you to the other person?
Michelle: Lots of things. His walk with God was a biggie. He made God first, which is the way I wanted things. God first, then me if we were to be married. He was tall, dark and handsome, of course... even more so now than ever. His integrity, honor and respect for others stuck out. He had a special knack with kids too. Something about him made them attracted to him. He was smart and used his wisdom to edify, encourage and speak truth at the right time. I really liked that in him.
Rob: While I was (of course) looking for beauty and intelligence, my primary focus in a potential wife was her heart for God. I had heard from a lot of married couples how important that was. Michelle had a big heart for several ministries that she was actively involved in, including the local Crisis Pregnancy Center and the church worship team. She had a tenderness and desire to seek Christ that I didn’t see matched in too many other ladies around me.
What made you decide to start dating?
Rob: Actually, we didn’t “date,” per se. The concept of “courtship” was becoming more popular at our church at that point. I know “courtship” sounds kind of old-fashioned. Some people (including my mom!) thought that we were getting engaged! Basically, courtship is a commitment between a young man, a young woman, and their families to explore the potential for a long-term relationship. We “went out,” but only in large-group settings at first, or over to each others’ houses to have dinner or spend time with our families. Our families were a lot more involved in the process, which helped us be more ourselves. I initiated a relationship with Michelle’s dad (whom I highly respected), and sought his advice and counsel on a number of things.
Michelle: I could seriously see him as my potential husband in a lot of ways. I viewed our dating as a way to get to know each other in a more serious and down to earth way. I wanted to know who he really was, not just on the surface. We just called it courting and we involved our parents a lot more than others normally do. Also, we had a similar goal in that we wanted this experience to be the best and to make it the most God-honoring we could make it. We decided not to kiss. We wrote a ton of letters and talked a lot on the phone. We made dinner for a friend at her house so we could watch her new baby while she and her husband took a walk around the block and enjoyed a few quiet moments together. We did lots of other projects together and it was well worth the investment. My love for Rob grew more with the progress of our courtship.
Did you know that they were “the one”? If so, how?
Rob: I honestly don’t know if there is a mystical “one” out there for someone. I do know that God seemed to have brought us together, and Michelle had all the characteristics of a godly woman that I was looking for. I prayed for a while before approaching her, and prayed even harder about the decision for us to get engaged. God confirmed (through various Scriptures and the godly counsel of others) that Michelle and I should keep moving forward in our relationship. Looking back, I can definitely see better now that I could back then; God does have a plan, and now that we are married, we see how He’s created us for one another.
Michelle: I wrote in my journal, around age 15, the specific qualities in the man I’d want to marry in the future. I added to it over the years and right before I found out Rob was interested in me I started to doubt, thinking my standards were just too high. Up till then no guy I knew could quite fit the “list” I asked God for. I really did believe God would give me the desires of my heart and the things in a man that I thought were important; a heart after God, respect towards his parents and a love for children/family. Even the little things, like being tall, were on my list. Yes, I prayed for a tall husband! I also asked for him to have musical talents, specifically with the guitar. Guess what? He plays that and a romantic violin! Anyway, only Rob fulfilled ALL the qualities I had asked God for and then some! Also, my parents were always praying for my future spouse and they knew the “list.” I shared it with them often to talk about potential guys. They counseled me along with my pastor and his wife on whether or not to go for it with Rob. Obviously they thought it was a great idea.
How did you guys get engaged?
Rob: I’ll let Michelle tell this; I hear that guys leave out all of the “good parts.”
Michelle: Rob was very romantic. It was so fun. My family lived on some acreage with a pond. Rob slipped a letter on the dining table and set off to the pond to set up his surprise. I read the sweet letter which simply asked me to come to the pond. When I got there I saw a blanket laid out with wine glasses(for sparkling grape juice), roses, and Hershey kisses everywhere. But Rob was nowhere in sight. I stopped and took the scene in. My heart was already racing, and then Rob came from behind a tree wearing his tuxedo and looking so handsome. Of course I cried. He approached me and knelt on one knee and spoke many sweet somethings to me which to this day I cannot remember it all. I just melted. He had won my heart months ago but this was just the beginning… he had special plans for the whole night. That evening we dined at a John Minios restaurant, then we drove around looking at Christmas lights, then finally we wrapped up that cold, beautiful December night with a special carriage ride in St.Louis. We finished the evening by hanging out with my parents watching a movie together. I was so excited I don’t remember the movie. I just wanted to talk about the night with my sisters and mom.
Any other special things about your relationship?
Rob: Our first kiss was on our wedding day! (I’m talking, my first kiss ever, and hers as well!) Some people think that’s freaky, but we wanted to save ourselves physically until the day when God was bringing us together in a permanent commitment. I would say it helped a lot in keeping our heads during our courting days.
Michelle's sister, Beth Jacob's wedding
Penthorwood Wedding
O Little One
In response to Micah 6:8 and James 1:27
Overwhelmed at how He saves those in oppression and specifically the little ones in slavery... see, As His Own(India), and other ministries have helped open my eyes to see that there is "no greater cause" than to work in freeing people from slavery, like Christ has done for me! His mercy is new and He brings new life, Oh, how can I fully understand this?
O Little One
O Little One,
Where have you gone?
Where have you been?
What have they done?
You’ve been abused
You’re in distress
You feel alone
You have no home
What can I do?
What can I do?
What can be done?
What can be done?
I’m torn in two
I’m torn for you
They have no shame
Who is to blame?
O Little One,
By His Mercy,
By His Grace
He knows your name
Sin in the world
Love’s beauty, it has blurred
Aching in the mire
But to be loved is your desire
He Who knows
Calls His own
To be His loving arms
To open up their palms
Will I obey?
To look after the orphan,
The widow, the weak?
Or to give money they desperately need?
May I wipe your tear?
Hold your hand, hold you near?
To go, to do?
With you, walk through?
To intercede may be my gift
To pray and to lift?
On behalf who don’t know
The seeds that they sow.
Will I obey?
His commands are so good.
Not for me, for His name’s sake ~
His glory and His fame!
O Little One,
Will I, can I, point you to Him?
Who knew no sin?
Creating new life within?
O Little One,
In this justice mission
How can I start?
What is my part ?
I may not,
But in any case,
Whether I see your face,
I want to be in the right place.
O Little One,
The cost of obedience,
The cost of sacrifice,
The cost of Love.
Christ Himself, for me He emptied
He gave His life a ransom for many
Now freedom since He came
Now calls me to do the same.
Evil’s days are few.
God’s promise is true.
He seeks justice for you.
He makes all things new!
How beautiful the day
When you see His face
Joy for pain, it will replace
Your life, a tapestry of grace
Until that day
I will listen and obey
I WILL commit
And love like Christ did.
A Poem Prayer
A Poem Prayer
This is a prayer
For the unknown child
From the heart of a mother
For the meek and the mild
This is a prayer
For the unknown girl
Sexually abused
Or hurt by the world.
Father in Heaven,
You are Creator.
A Stronghold.
The Maker.
Father in Heaven,
History has told
You are Faithful and True,
You are beautiful and bold.
Father in Heaven,
Show Your strong arm.
Be the God of All Ages
Keep our children from harm.
Father in Heaven,
All riches are yours
The earth and all in it.
All Heaven adores.
Father in Heaven,
Can you be near,
Those who are scared,
Those filled with fear?
Father in Heaven,
A mother’s heart cries out,
For the comfort of those
With tears or have doubt.
Father in Heaven,
Tonight can You save them?
From the evil one’s ways
Crush him out and condemn him
May Your blessed Name be praised!
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Identify TEMPTATION and weak spots!
tonight, and thought it was such a good idea to fwd the link of Pastor Jay's
message last Sunday! Please know you are both in my prayers and I am being
completely honest when I say I pray for you daily, and I hope you will pray for
me too! So here is the message from our small group leaders...
Hope you all had a chance to hear the sermon yesterday... it was so good! If you
didn't, here's the link to listen to the sermon.
http://graceforgranger.org/media.php?pageID=25
I wanted to echo the challenge given by Pastor Jay, to IDENTIFY TEMPTATION and
WEAK SPOTS in your life. Here are a few he mentioned:
* Our mouths (gossip, sarcasm)
* Lustful thoughts
* Finances
* Anger
What a sobering and powerful reminder to HATE our sin and ATTACK it with prayer,
the Word, accountability. I know in my own life I tend to belittle and coddle
my sin, while still worshipping God with my mouth and body... yet I wonder why I
do not see more fruit and God moving in and through me?..."
(Our Small Group Leaders)
I would encourage you to find 1 way to memorize/continue to memorize Scripture
as one of the best ways to combat Satan and his attacks or even our own wrong
thought-patterns. If you wish to work on a chapter with me, I am currently
working on Philippians 2... fantastic chapter!
Personally, I find it extremely helpful to memorize the same way my little
National Quizzing brother, and John Piper do it: I read 1 verse 10+ times, then
close the book(or put my hand over the verse) and say it out loud 10+ times. I
review it in my head all day, emphasizing different words in the verse AND/OR if
I thinkI have it, I move on to the next verse... doesn't take long. Try to do
this first thing in the morning(or after your shower ~ lol!) and then again at
night before bed! Keep it rolling and review the previous days verse(es) on top
of the new verse(s).
Rob had a discipleship group this past semester and two guys took up the
challenge to memorize this way 24 verses, and these two guys said it was the
best part of the discipleship group this year! I challenge you to do this 1
thing over the summer... see how it changes your thought patterns as you dwell
on His Word through-out the day! Also, don't give up if you happen to miss a
day! Keep going!!!